Problem Child.

What do you do when your child refuses to go to school and when they do go, they spend 90% of the day throwing fits, interrupting class, ignoring, threatening and even hitting teachers? Since school started in September, he's gone downhill really fast. The school is getting tired of dealing with him, and I don't blame them. It's a rare day that I DON'T get a phone call about how terribly the day went. When they look at him they see this:

Jim and I met with a woman at Fraser and she told us basically that he doesn't have ADD and he's above average in smarts. I took Eoghan to his first therapy session yesterday. He's got some sort of behavior disorder, sensory integration disorder and high anxiety levels. We came up with some goals to work on, but I'm honestly not optimistic. I get the distinct impression from both the therapist and the behavior specialist at school, that they don't think we're doing anything to fix the problems. Frankly, I'm ready to rip my hair out for sheer frustration. Every day is a struggle. A struggle to get dressed for school in the morning. A struggle to get him onto the bus. Every day we wonder when we're going to get a call home from school. We've tried begging, pleading, demanding, threatening, bribing, punishing bad behavior and rewarding good behavior...nothing works. Last week Eoghan was so unable to control himself and his meltdowns that he spent a couple hours the entire WEEK in his classroom. He refused to eat breakfast or lunch. They're going to get an iep going for him to receive services at school...but until it's all set, we're stuck in a vicious cycle. I'm so frustrated and confused and...well, scared. What if they can't figure out what's going on? What if nothing works? What if he can't ever control himself and spends the rest of his life in trouble? I've been considering homeschooling him to see if that would help. I keep being told "hold off" but, I just see Eoghan getting worse and watching new issues arise. What do you do when your child has anxiety attacks and is depressed? It's heartbreaking. I wish I could fix him and take away his hurt. I guess we just keep swimming and hope that things get figured quickly. In the meantime...I will keep trying. I need some wine. :(